Facebook friend requests are dangerous territory. How well do you need to know a person before you add them as a friend? Is it socially acceptable to add someone you have never met? Facebook complicates the already grey area by prompting you to connect with other users via the ‘suggested friends’ widget. People that appear here are often known to you, even if only on a limited basis, making it a real melting pot of acquaintances and strangers.
For Amanda Creighton, Facebook was about to give her a shock she was not expecting, when the site innocently suggested she make her friendship Facebook official with the wife of her fiancé. Creighton was horrified, but then she learned the whole story…
The 32-year-old mother, from Newcastle, England met Chris Walker on the dating website, Free Dating, back in 2013. Amanda, who had just split from her husband of ten years, was “hesitant about getting into another relationship”. But, when Chris messaged her, she decided to take “the plunge” and they began to chat.
The pair exchanged messages for a month, and then decided to meet up in a nearby bar. Amanda was instantly smitten with 38-year-old Chris and had no cause for concern. “Chris was really funny and we ended the night with a kiss,” the mother-of-three recalls.
After the success of their first date, the two began to date, before making it official four months later. But, Amanda was left lonely when Chris announced that he would be travelling 360 miles to Poole for a six-week long work trip. Amanda offered to visit him, but he rejected any such plan. “I thought it was weird, but just assumed he was busy,” Amanda explains, with hindsight.
Instead, Chris was really spending the time with his wife, who was giving birth to their baby. When Chris returned from his six week trip, he was distant with Amanda and ignored her texts and calls. But, when Amanda confronted him about it, he knelt down on one knee and proposed. “I was shocked but really excited and immediately forgave his weird behaviour and put it down to work stress,” Amanda explains.
Over the next six months, she excitedly began to plan their wedding. Little did she know, that it would all end in tears…